How to be more conscious in our relationship

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Conscious relating

Consent:  what is our agreement

Who wants what and who is it for whose desire are we following?

Each one offers gifts and is liberating often we judge the taking as selfish but it can be highly erotic and builds confidence

It s not about pleasure it is about agreement 

Challenge not clear who it is for

Each is distinctly different

Who is doing is a different question then who it is for

Old paradigm doer is giver 

Receiver is who it s being done to

Not about gender or sex

Just human

Doing for them giving for you for them

Done to for you it’s for you for them you are giving gift of Access to you is giving.

When I say how would you like me to touch you. 

What is that?

How would you like me to touch you?

We can not assume. What we feel like is what the other feels

The agreement that creates the wheel of consent 

Makes it enjoyable.

We have a responsibility of our limits then the giving becomes enjoyable.

If it isn t you are not in it.

If you are receiving it is for YOU and you get to have it the way you want it